Sunday 6 March
I’m discovering that my flat is super bright and sunny during the day. All windows are located to the south. I’ve been inside measuring all morning and will need to get some furniture next weekend when my mum and aunt come to visit. I can’t go myself without a car.
I have been thinking about the French man today. Was I naive and stupid to meet up with him? I did ask myself that question more than once prior to accepting his invitation. Although he looked well dressed and has a good job (according to his card) and a house (apparently) – apart from our conversation on the train and a few Facebook messages – he was a total stranger to me.
As a joke, one of my friends even said: “Be careful tomorrow, he could be a rapist!" Hahaa...
The thing is, people have met throughout history in different places and ways and will continue to do so. My grandparents met at a dance in Southern Sweden and one of my cousins got married and has a child with a man that she met on the Internet. Yet, I keep reading about “naive” girls who get assaulted by men they meet online, in clubs, etc.
But it isn't naive or stupid to get assaulted, and people don’t intentionally put themselves at risk of being damaged and hurt.
It’s just a fact that some men in this world are sick enough to practise power over others, which rape and violence against women is about... When it happens, it’s plain unlucky for a woman - it’s never her fault – as much as some media and court systems sometimes tell us to think otherwise.
So I’ve made my mind up. I wasn’t unwise or putting myself at risk this weekend. It’s my birthright to trust and to meet new people as part of living life and to grow.
I have been thinking about the French man today. Was I naive and stupid to meet up with him? I did ask myself that question more than once prior to accepting his invitation. Although he looked well dressed and has a good job (according to his card) and a house (apparently) – apart from our conversation on the train and a few Facebook messages – he was a total stranger to me.
As a joke, one of my friends even said: “Be careful tomorrow, he could be a rapist!" Hahaa...
The thing is, people have met throughout history in different places and ways and will continue to do so. My grandparents met at a dance in Southern Sweden and one of my cousins got married and has a child with a man that she met on the Internet. Yet, I keep reading about “naive” girls who get assaulted by men they meet online, in clubs, etc.
But it isn't naive or stupid to get assaulted, and people don’t intentionally put themselves at risk of being damaged and hurt.
It’s just a fact that some men in this world are sick enough to practise power over others, which rape and violence against women is about... When it happens, it’s plain unlucky for a woman - it’s never her fault – as much as some media and court systems sometimes tell us to think otherwise.
So I’ve made my mind up. I wasn’t unwise or putting myself at risk this weekend. It’s my birthright to trust and to meet new people as part of living life and to grow.
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